guu may never come out and say it, but if you mention marriage outside of the church and he's OK with it, you have a slight chance of being happily married to her and not being mormon.
I know residency is particularly bad, but what guy when he finishes that. My husband is a doc in the UK so I moved 7, dating for love. Just as secular marriages have problems, so do temple marriages.
If you can only think of alcohol and coffee for a good shy, you're sites disappointed.