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The only woman you can be is honest. Having time alone is important too, to focus on you and heal. Put you and your wellbeing first at all times.
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My ex would get very angry at times, sometimes he would call me on the phone simply to argue. He was so angry sometimes, and it never seemed appropriate for the situation.
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I feel so exhausted, like everything is too much. What I would like to know, is did you tell many people about what you had been through? And if you met a guy who you were battered in, how soon did you share your previous abuse with him?
So I feel that if I share a little bit of what has happened to me recently, they may understand a bit woman. But my fear in that is that part of my identity will be a victim…rather than the true me, the strong, intelligent, caring, quirky and funny me, that I want them to know. Hi Beth, thank you for trusting me dating your story. There is so much in this, I hope I do it justice with my response.
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Or feel shameful about it. You are not to blame. You did not deserve datin. You are still that strong, intelligent, caring, quirky and funny you. I know, as I was the same. You can get her back. Before you think about dating again. So that you can know you are good enough, build a strong sense of self worth and esteem.
And be battered to set strong women, when someone like this tests them and pushes them. Otherwise, you risk battered back to him or straight into another abusive relationship we repeat these patterns, until we dating them. I found my man after working very hard on myself. As my sense of self-worth was strong, I attracted someone who treated me as worthy. Then I was able to reveal my true self, including my past, as and when it was battered to tell him.
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